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Are You Dating A Lug Nut?

dating a lug nut

What’s in a name?

As in Chrysler? Honda? Ford? Or Smith?
If you are familiar with the name, it probably evoked some sort of response when you read each one: “Chrysler-struggling.” “Honda-dependable.” “Ford-aggressive.” “Smith-self-centered.”

The manufacturer of a particular vehicle says a lot about what you can expect in performance, reputation, accountability and will give dozens of other indicators to help you make your decision and not end up dating a lug nut. There may be a reason you steer clear of the Toyota Dealership and would have no trouble taking a closer look at a BMW. There is a lot to be said in a name; Chrysler is the manufacturer; Sebring is the model.

In dating, the truth is: the lug nut doesn’t fall far from the tree.

Parents are the “manufacturers” of their children and can be pretty good indicators of what they will most likely “put out on the showroom floor.” A parent that is a well-mannered, responsible, kind, generous person, tends to produce similar qualities in his or her children. If a parent is a lug nut, it’s likely the child will also be a lug nut.

Let me drive it home…Josh is the model and Smith is the manufacturer. Josh has parents that had a reputation long before he fell from the family tree. It may be easier for him to follow the lineage of the manufacturer and not break out of the mold.

The point is, when you buy a car, you put some consideration into who made that particular model. You don’t just discount the manufacturer.

The same goes for dating. How will you research the background of those who “made” Josh or Kristy into who they are today? How do find evidence of self-control, dependability, good decision-making, and compassion? Are those options or standard features that come with every model?

Next time you meet someone, put a bit of time into finding out who produced this hot-rod. You might find the lug nut doesn’t fall far from the tree.

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About Lisa Jander

Teens call me, "Mama j." Parents call me the “Teen Dating Mechanic.” I believe that by teaching teens about the risks in dating we can shift their thinking about relationships in this culture. As a Certified Relationship Coach, Public Speaker and Author of a book titled, “Dater’s Ed: Driver’s Ed Model for Dating,” I am passionate about promoting family education to STOP reckless dating before it begins.